Hello, sorry for the delay in the reply, the last two days have been a lot IRL and I did not want to dive into my inbox until I could give replies the thought and respect they - and their posters - deserve. That said, here we go.
As I have replied to other posters, I had not thought about people who were actively seeking to harm others. Now or in the past. As I have said in other messages, I clearly need to consider that, now that it has been brought to my attention. I was thinking about people who used to post things that just made others uncomfortable, or used to have foul language issues or anger issues that have since grown up and gotten better at socializing. I may have been naive. I probably was. But blind spots like that are exactly why I am looking for co-mods. Or was. As I have also said previously, I am stepping back to consider all the feedback I have been given; so that if and when I do try this again it is with more preparation and more of an idea how to make this a safe space for all who come with an honest desire to do no harm. I want to believe the best in people. I want to believe that all people can grow and change. I am sure most, if not all of us, have done things in the past that we regret. Hurt people that we never would have hurt now; but I again, was thinking of unintentional harm. Harm caused by, at worst, a lack of consideration for others.
Again, however, the intention was never to force people to choose between drop or interact. I have stated over and over that giving a second chance would be encouraged, but other than among the mod team, no more than encouraged. Opt outs will be allowable, and I would want players to feel that the mod team is approachable.
Now, as I said, I had not factored in intentional harm. And I am considering that now. So I appologize if my unintended negligence caused anyone to feel hurt or stressed. That was never my intention. I want to help the people around me to find reasons to smile, and have never meant to distress anyone. So if I have upset you - you being the person who replied, or just anyone reading this - I am deeply and truly sorry. I am taking what has been said to heart and working on trying to do better. And trying to figure out how to handle the very valid concern over abusers that I had previously overlooked.
Thank you for taking the time to respond to me. Given how you seem to feel about me and what you perceive my attitude to me, it would have been easy to close the thread in disgust and never give it another thought. But you took the time and effort to reply and let me know how I came across. And I appreciate it, even if the words hurt to read. They didn't hurt because they were mean, but they hurt because I became aware that I could have hurt others. That I could have given someone with PTSD or anxiety over a previous incident reason to feel worse, not better. As I said, that was never my intent. And again, my deepest apologies go out to any who have had to deal with that.
Re: Looking for Co-mods
As I have replied to other posters, I had not thought about people who were actively seeking to harm others. Now or in the past. As I have said in other messages, I clearly need to consider that, now that it has been brought to my attention. I was thinking about people who used to post things that just made others uncomfortable, or used to have foul language issues or anger issues that have since grown up and gotten better at socializing. I may have been naive. I probably was. But blind spots like that are exactly why I am looking for co-mods. Or was. As I have also said previously, I am stepping back to consider all the feedback I have been given; so that if and when I do try this again it is with more preparation and more of an idea how to make this a safe space for all who come with an honest desire to do no harm. I want to believe the best in people. I want to believe that all people can grow and change. I am sure most, if not all of us, have done things in the past that we regret. Hurt people that we never would have hurt now; but I again, was thinking of unintentional harm. Harm caused by, at worst, a lack of consideration for others.
Again, however, the intention was never to force people to choose between drop or interact. I have stated over and over that giving a second chance would be encouraged, but other than among the mod team, no more than encouraged. Opt outs will be allowable, and I would want players to feel that the mod team is approachable.
Now, as I said, I had not factored in intentional harm. And I am considering that now. So I appologize if my unintended negligence caused anyone to feel hurt or stressed. That was never my intention. I want to help the people around me to find reasons to smile, and have never meant to distress anyone. So if I have upset you - you being the person who replied, or just anyone reading this - I am deeply and truly sorry. I am taking what has been said to heart and working on trying to do better. And trying to figure out how to handle the very valid concern over abusers that I had previously overlooked.
Thank you for taking the time to respond to me. Given how you seem to feel about me and what you perceive my attitude to me, it would have been easy to close the thread in disgust and never give it another thought. But you took the time and effort to reply and let me know how I came across. And I appreciate it, even if the words hurt to read. They didn't hurt because they were mean, but they hurt because I became aware that I could have hurt others. That I could have given someone with PTSD or anxiety over a previous incident reason to feel worse, not better. As I said, that was never my intent. And again, my deepest apologies go out to any who have had to deal with that.
Once again, thank you, and I am sorry.