i really don't want to pile on here, because you've already said you're stepping back, but you seem genuinely open to feedback and i would feel remiss if i let you walk away from this thread without bringing something up.

"intentional harm" isn't a great way to frame abuse. most abusers don't set out to do harm. the vast majority of abusers set out to make themselves feel better when they feel bad, so i worry that by concerning yourself with "intentional harm" vs "just doesn't fit in" you're going to end up putting everyone in the latter category. i really think you should drop the "people would be encouraged to give second chances" thing because what that's going to translate to is peer pressuring people to interact with their abusers or bullies, who are almost never aware or intentional about doing harm and will swear up and down they've never meant to hurt anyone and mean it. someone who repeatedly friend requests or PMs people who've unfriended them until they get blocked is a harasser, even if they just wanted to ask why. someone who claims to play a character who's good about consent but really isn't is still going to stomp on boundaries, even if they genuinely don't know what they're doing wrong.

i do get your intent. i don't think you're pro-abuser in any way and i don't think you'd ever knowingly allow harm to occur in a game you were running. i'm just concerned that you don't really understand the waters you're trying to wade into here.