enablemeplz | June EMP Meme

ENABLEMEPLZ
meme goes up on the Second Saturday of every month
FOR GAME ADS:

➤ Put an ad up with the characters / crew / pairings / fetish you want for your game under the correct game header. This meme is primarily going to be focused on DWRP games but IJ and LJ games are allowed.

➤ PLEASE NOTE A RULE CHANGE HERE. ABSOLUTELY NO obnoxious coding (no font size > size 4 or 3 "big" tags, no oversized banners (they must be 250px in height or less), no blinking text, no obnoxious table html that doesn't collapse easily, no sparklies, no large pictures). Use all the colors you like, but please remember 3 "big" tags is the limit and that's only for headers or title text rather than for all the text in an ad.

FOR GAME QUESTIONS:

➤ RPers interested in a game can create a header for the game and ask questions about that game that aren't easy to find on faqs, such as the actual pace vs. what's listed/what kind of plots are run/if the game leans more towards plotty or slice of life/if a game leans more towards network or logs, etc. Both anon questions and anon answers are welcome in this section just like in the rest of the meme.

➤ This thread is not for speaking about wank or drama in a game. There are anoncomms that exist for that. This thread is specifically for general questions about a game that rpers want to get perspective on from players already in the game. Answers can be slightly negative (such as saying app response is slow or that the plots are repetitive or similar things) but this should at least be worded politely. Unnecessary vitriol, any mention of personal drama or wank, or mod teams/individual mods/players being singled out, will be either frozen or screened (based on what seems right based on the content).

FOR CHARACTER ADS:

➤ Put up an ad about the characters you are offering. For PSL ads, there is a separate subthread but for character ads for games, post directly to the meme post. Others will comment to you with the games/casts they want you to join.

➤ There is a "Find a Castmate" section, where you can talk about a cast you play in at a game, and try to lure people to join it. Not all games post to the meme or have a "wanted" section, so players that want to tempt people to their cast on their own can use this section for it. Please format this the same as the PSL section, where you post your character's canons in your subject. For the actual text of the ad you must use the "Find a Castmate" form provided at the bottom of this post so that these ads don't get huge. When listing who's currently in a cast, please do this in sentence form (with commas) rather than in list form.

➤ There is a "Find Crosscanon" section, where you can talk about a character you play and and desired crosscanon for that character. Please make sure this is not too generalized a search, because just wanting general crosscanon can be accomplished with the other sections of the meme. This is for specific characters or character types you're looking for. In the subject, please list the "Looking for [canon you're looking for]" rather than your character's canon. If looking for a character type, list the character type in as few words as possible. Do not make the subject huge or I'll screen your comment. For the actual text of the ad you must use the "Find Crosscanon" form provided at the bottom of this post so that these ads don't get huge. This section is only for game crosscanon as in the psl section people can list their preferences.

➤ Examples of crosscanon you can search for: You play The Flash from DC Comics and your dream CR is fellow speedster Quicksilver from Marvel. Or you might play a witch and want cr with other witches in general. Or maybe you play a good character messed up by evil parents and want to play against a villain character you know has evil parents, because you know it'd lead to some interesting negative CR.

➤ ABSOLUTELY NO obnoxious coding, with the same rules as the Game Ads Section above.

➤ If you're recommending a game to someone, try to match your suggestion to their needs. It's okay if part of your game rec is copy-pasted (such as what the game's about), but at least some part of the rec must be personalized to their ad. Try not to recommend the same game to every single ad, either. Ad spam that isn't individualized in some way will also be frozen or screened. Keep in mind this needs to be more specific than "this game has easy AC like you're asking for but meets none of your other requirements." Make sure you're advertising games that might click with that specific character, where a few elements fit what they're looking for. You should be thinking about the story reasons of how the character might click with the game.

IN GENERAL:

➤ Don't be a dick. This isn't one of the anoncomms, so any snide comments or unnecessary commentary on the RP plans of others will be frozen or screened.

MOD CONTACT:

If there's trouble, tell me HERE, please!

RESOURCES:

enablemeplz - The plurk for Enable Me Plz. Follow for monthly, replurkable EMP reminders
DWRP Masterlist - A regularly updated basic list of public DWRP games.

dedoralive - A more detailed listing of DWRP Games.

GAME/AD LINKS:

General Game/Dressing Room Ads Link
- New Games
- Small Games
- Medium/Large Games
- Museboxes/Memes/Dressing Rooms/Misc.
- Game Questions
- Game Start Discussions/Questions

PSL Offerings
Find a Castmate
Find Crosscanon

Latest Page

Textbox for Character Ads (Optional):

Textbox for "Find a Castmate" Ads (Required):

For "Find Crosscanon" Ads (Required):

➤ Important note: IP logging has turned on due to multiple instances past and present of problem players trying to return to the dwrp community via emp after being banned other places, so I'll be IP logging from now on, and will compare notes with the rpa and wg mods (as well as game mods) where appropriate if it seems like someone that has been mass banned. I will not pay attention to IPs otherwise. I don't care what people like playing or who's who. So please feel comfortable to keep doing your thing, anon or otherwise. The knowledge will only be used for really egregious problem cases.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

Thank you. I appreciate this. And I think you re right that I don't really understand any of this. And honestly if I were just planning to live my life and focus only on myself, I wouldn't want to. A lot of what all of this has made me think about is... honestly terrifying. Trying to understand how people think in ways that are different from how I think is something I have been working on for years.

I really don't understand how someone could abuse someone else and not see that is what they are doing, that they could be doing this and not meaning it. I've dealt with abusers, I've been harassed, and stalked, and bullied. I've been verbally and physically attacked. And I will admit.. I've honestly never been able to figure out they why. I doubt I ever will.

But even if I was never planning to run a game, I need to start thinking about this more now that I've been made aware of it, because I want to be someone who can actually help people. I want to be able to be a better person, and a better friend. Maybe some day in the future, a good mod. And to do that I have to learn from all of this, even if that learning is painful to me. I'd rather be hurt than hurt someone else. A million times over.

And if what you are saying is true (I do not think that you are lying to me, this is my own difficulty in grasping this at this point) then I need to not only think about how to help others, but also examine my own patterns of behavior to make sure I am not doing this to anyone myself. I would never want to accidentally or unintentionally hurt someone. Friend, family, stranger. Anyone. I really have a lot to think about and process in all this, and I thank you for the additional information.

I do not at all feel like you are in any way piling on. I appreciate the information. I just... I guess I can't get my head around abuse not being intentional. And that is something I need to figure out. Somehow.

I will say that the one thing you mentioned that is giving me a different sort of difficulty is your example for harassment. Because I have trouble understanding how someone not in that situation could draw that line. As a mod, should I ever be one, I would want to protect my players, and harassment would be stated in the rules to be not allowed. But the kind of harassment you described wasn't what I was thinking about. I guess because I have had social media glitch and unfriend me from people's accounts who 100% did not unfriend me and would not have. I did ask why I was no longer on their friend's list. In some cases there was surprise and confusion and then things were resolved and it was a glitch. In some cases it was intentional and they explained why and I thanked them and respected it, and in some cases I asked, was ignored, and let it go. I honestly don't see how just asking could be harassment, but I will keep it in my mind that at least some people see it as such.

I have always been a big believer in feedback and communication. That is why I appreciate so many people being willing to be open and honest with me about their feelings. So that I can learn and do better. So that others reading it who have fallen into the same traps I have fallen into can also learn and do better. I understand that wanting the answer so I can improve is in large part selfish. I... can't really help that. I do want to be a better person, a better friend. And if I hurt someone I want to not only make amends, but also try to learn so I won't hurt them or anyone else going forward. But while I kind of always knew that asking was selfish, I never thought it could be harassment, that it could be hurtful. And if anyone reading this is someone who I ever made feel uncomfortable by asking (or in any other way) I am sorry. Very deeply sorry. It was never my intent to hurt you or upset you.

And this wondered, sorry. I am a bit emotional now, I will admit, and will probably be more clear headed on the topic after I have had some time to really think about it.

I appreciate so much that you took the time to not only bring this up, but to explain it. To give me this chance to do better and hopefully cause less harm.

I appreciate it more than I have words to say.

Thank you.

June EMP Meme

Re: Addressing all comments so far. Thank you for them!